Lynn 49 divorced. Two kids, from Yorkshire. Pilates teacher and massage therapist.

How are you?

Up and down. The high is very high an the low is very low. I am happy to be alive. It’s been exhausting and I am very lonely inside. I feel I am without my team, no husband and my kids have grown up.

What’s your most memorable experience?

When the doctor said mastectomy. He dragged it out - telling me. I felt I’d never find a man now. I felt mutilated. I’d always been confident about my body and my sexuality, it had nothing to do with having cancer but more to do with my body image.

How do you think other people see you?

Ten years ago I met someone who told me I had an aura about me. I came away from that feeling calm, stiller a much better person. It was a confidence boost. People see me as strong but I don’t always feel it.

What is your dream?

To meet a man and connect on all levels. I want someone to help create a nest. I would like to develop my business - body work. Deep passion has to come from the inside and being hands on is my first passion.

What brings you down?

The fear of not being good enough, lack confidence, lack of voice. Indecisiveness. Deep down I know exactly what I want.

How do you see yourself?

Someone who is a little awkward in their skin. A bit gawky, never knowing quite what to say. Gullible and passive. I have spent my life putting others before me. I feel other peoples’ stuff, I am very empathetic. I have a passionate desire to help people find their inner strength and be the best they can be. I am mentally strong and determined. I try to be present - in the moment.

Who or what inspires you?

I’m inspired by kindness, goodness and genuine honesty. People who are driven by desire to create something that is of value to people. In my garden there are some nesting wrens that I watched build their home and family whilst I was having chemo, it was beautiful to see. Nature inspires me.

What does life mean to you?

Life is for living, enjoying, creating relationships, not wasting it with the wrong people. Finding what you're passionate about so you can do it for your work. Learning about yourself, being responsible for people and the world around you. How we can make the world better? It’s about creating a community and family that co-nurtures and finding ways to be inspired by your surroundings.

Are you free?

I don’t think any of us are free. I am held back by my past. Although I feel freer than I did before I got ill. I have forgiven my ex husband which had made me freer. Freedom is allowing people to be who they are and finding an environment to be your true self.